Why Dr. Emil Chynn Can't Find Love or at least a 2nd Date?

This gives you an idea of what Dr Chynn is looking for in a wife.

New York doctor Emil Chynn was recently on television explaining what he wants in a woman. He has advertised for a woman in his Columbia University Alumnus magazine offering to donate $10,000 to the finder’s favorite charity upon his wedding.  He has struck out with New York’s top matchmakers who charge $1000 an hour. He has resorted to massive email campaigns inviting almost everyone he has ever met to help him find a wife. Single doctor with no children or demanding exes, what’s not to like? I guess that depends more on the doctor who rejected the two women he did meet. He explained they didn’t meet his standards.

The forty-five year old plastic surgeon only wants what he wants. It seems fair since he has now upped the ante with offers of free plastic surgery for people who will introduce him to his future bride. 

(Keep in mind, if he goes out with the woman someone has found for him and finds her not up to his exacting standards then no reward will be forthcoming. At this time, no one has received anything.)

Here are some of his requirements.

·         8-9 on the beauty scale ( with 10 being goddess-like perfection)

·         Christian

·         Well-traveled outside the US

·         Must love pets

·         Blonde

·         Size 0-2 (an average American woman is a size 14. A zero would measure 30-22-32.  Most twelve-year old girls are bigger than that.)

·         College educated

·         No kids

·         Must be willing to have kids in the next 1-2 years

·         White. No Blacks, Hispanics or Asians need to apply. (Yes, he’s Asian.)

·         Practice healthy lifestyle - no drugs, smoking, or drinking. Eat healthy and exercise.

See anything wrong with this list? He doesn’t mention any actual personality traits or interests.  He wants a Barbie doll to immediately start popping out kids he never got around to having because of his career.  He wants a short, skinny wife because, as he explained on television, he only weighs 125 pounds. He wants to marry a white woman when he would have so much better luck finding a tiny woman among the Asian population.

 Being a doctor doesn’t bring as much panache as it used to, especially with women having their own careers. The woman in question is supposed to drop everything when encountering Dr. Wonderful because he is now ready for children. This is indicative of how life with him will be. It is all about what he wants and what will fit into his life.

Since going public with his television interview, he has had two failed dates. This has brought up a discussion if list-making is the culprit. Of course, if you sign up for a dating service or go to a matchmaker, they’ll both want your list. Arranged marriages even have lists too, usually the parents’.

Lists don’t work when you expect everything on the list as Dr. Chynn does. He explains he wants to be bigger than his wife because women in the US prefer their husbands to be larger than they are. This is true to an extent. Keep in mind, Dr. Chynn, that some of those tiny women prefer their husband much taller so they can wear their stilettos.

Women would like to believe fate takes a hand in romance as opposed to friends or co-workers with mercenary intentions. Instead of caring about future happiness of the woman, so-called friends only want to score some free Botox. Dr. Chynn’s search possesses the same air of desperation as The Bachelor television show.  The only other difference, besides one man being model worthy and the other a short surgeon, is their willingness to pick a bride. The television bachelor will pick a bride from the selected women even if they break up later. Dr. Chynn would like an endless parade of beautiful women trotted in front of him as if he were a medieval king looking for a mate.

People in their forties who never marry talk about wanting to marry. Does it ever make you wonder why they never did? They talk as if they woke up one day, and said, “Oh my goodness, I’m getting close to fifty and I never once thought of getting married. Pretty soon, I’ll be too old to play soccer with my children.” This is what Dr. Chynn would have us believe.

The real story is somewhat different. They may have partied, traveled and dated numerous people. They lived a life free of responsibilities and were not answerable to another person. They enjoyed their life for the most part. Instead of marrying, they may have strung out some relationships indicating there might be a future, but failing to commit. Unwilling to give up the perceived benefits of their single lifestyle they never married until one day they realize they were no longer young.  Reality comes knocking. They foolishly believe that because they are now ready to marry eager women should swarm them. Most of the suitable women are now married. Those left aren’t so thrilled at the prospect.

Women are smart to avoid a man who has never married. He has demonstrated the desire not to want a significant relationship, but also the inability to have one. My brief brush with men who never married after forty taught me there was a reason for their single state even if it wasn’t obvious on the surface. Most women know this, just as they are aware that a man who advertises for a wife and offers finder fees is no prize.

Dr.  Chynn will probably marry a tiny, beautiful blonde woman who will eventually leave him for someone who sees her as more than items on a list. While love plays a hand in happy unions, shared backgrounds do too. Maybe Dr. Chynn should be looking for a fussy doctor who graduated from Columbia. Oh wait; he already did that.