It’s Friday and time for my massage. My masseuse is an
upbeat, attractive Hawaiian guy who is really good with his hands, and often
chatty. He envies my relationship with
my sweetie because he hasn’t had any luck.
His last four girlfriends dumped him he confessed, but they cheated on
him first with some bad boy type. “Really, you’re kidding me,” I exclaimed from
my prone position on the table. ”You’re a nice guy,” I mumbled through the face
rest.
I know he’s a nice guy because of how he is with his own
children, and even his ex-girlfriend’s children. He often plans romantic
getaways for his girlfriend of the moment. Here is a thoughtful, romantic man
who’s willing to date women with children, and yet he seems to get dumped all
the time. What gives? Why do women dump him? He wanted a list so I scoured my
brain for what I knew.
Some women dump guys who do too much. They give too much early on proving they’re
needy, not a delicious prize like the tantalizing bad boy who gives
nothing. Why do pickup artists get girls
by insulting them or flirting with their girlfriends? Women tend to want what they don’t have or
seems hard to get. The guy who is too nice in the beginning doesn’t seem to be
a prize. ( I do want to point out the
guy that seems like a jerk at the getgo is often a jerk.) Women who enjoy this type
of behavior have poor self-esteem.
Another reason a woman moves on is the appeal of variety.
She may have a wonderful guy, but is convinced another wonderful guy is around
the corner. This is the female version of the player. Often she over estimates her charms and believes
she can play this game forever.
The flipside of this is the woman who married her first
boyfriend who may be a wonderful guy. He might be the best guy she’ll ever
meet, still she feels cheated. A steady
diet of her friends’ romantic chatter, coupled with romantic comedies, makes
her wonder if she made the right choice.
Given a few years, and a couple different guys, and she may have made
the same choice, but she doesn’t know this yet. Instead, she chucks her
faithful man in search of that romantic paragon she’s been told is out there.
Women dump men out of boredom. We accuse men of this all the
time, and are surprised women are guilty too. Women like more variety in
everything from food to sexual positions. Many men declare themselves to be
steak and potatoes men meaning they could do the same thing over and over and
be content. Women stuck in these relationships don’t know how to introduce
something new, or have been rebuffed when they tried. It seems easier to just
start over.
Women dump men who don’t give them what they want
financially. The simple name for this is gold digger. If that is all a man is to a women then he’s
better off without her.
Ever know a woman who likes drama, chaos, and attention in
her life? Then she won’t be content with one guy. She’ll start something with
one, move to another while she is still dating the first one. That makes for
plenty of drama. She is an attention whore. One man can never be enough for
her. It isn’t the sex either because most of the attention she is getting is
from her girlfriends.
I hesitate to say this, but some women dump men that don’t
have the right look. Of course, you might wonder why they went out with them in
the first place, but people change, along with their professions. Many nurses
put their medical student husbands through school only to be kicked to
the curb when he reached doctor status. Same deal with women who find their blue
collar boyfriend no longer suits their professional image. Maybe the boyfriend
grew comfortable in the relationship and put on weight or wore sweats in public
one too many times. Yep, women discard guys who don’t suit them rather like an
out of season purse.
Do you have a friend who dates lots of men? She may have
thrown away several nice men. The problem is she doesn’t know what she
wants. She thinks she’ll find it by
dating, but that doesn’t work. She has to sit down, not for a few minutes, but
often months to discover what she really needs and wants in a partner. How can
you know if you have it when you don’t know what you need? Ever wonder why some elderly ladies are so
crotchety? They’ve gotten to the end of their lives never living the life they
wanted. They could have stopped at any time and made adjustments. They could
probably throw out several reasons why they didn’t do that. If you want
something bad enough you make it happen as opposed to going through life
haphazardly.
Now, there are plenty of reasons to leave a guy, including
abuse. The important thing is to leave as opposed to going out and cheating on
him. Why do women do this? Sometimes I think they believe it is their right.
Other times they think they won’t get caught and they can have the nice man who
is paying the bills and the bad boy. Other times the woman wants to break up,
and cheating seems to be the deal breaker that will make it happen. Still,
other women are just trying out the merchandise before deciding which one she
wants. All in all, it is tacky behavior.
Women often believe men don’t take romantic breakups hard.
They do. They take them very hard. Surf on over to a website called Men Going
Their Own Way http://www.mgtowforums.com.
You’ll find men who are definitely down on American women because they’ve been
rejected by one or dozens of women, which puts a whole different complexion on
the whole dating issue.
Why do women leave nice guys for bad boys? I’d love to hear your thoughts.
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ReplyDelete"Women dump men who don’t give them what they want financially. The simple name for this is gold digger."
"If that is all a man is to a women then he’s better off without her."
Traditionally, about a hundred years ago, a man served as a paycheck, father to her children and status marker.
ReplyDeleteToday, more women are making as much or more than men. With this in mind, why should a man play the part of a sugar daddy? He shouldn't. Any woman who is with him for what he will buy her will eventually dump him after getting everything she wanted first.
Here are a list of reasons why women dump Nice guys :
ReplyDelete1. Biological makeup: Women were hard wired to prefer the strong, dominant and confident man. Now because being needy might a give false indication that a person is helpless and weak most women will be turned off by the needy man.
2. Supply and demand: Women find men more attractive when they find that other women like them as well. In other words the more demanded you are the more attractive you appear to be. Now when you become very nice to a woman she might think that you are desperate to get her just because no one else likes you.
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