Are
you a drama queen? If you are, then you are one of the top things men hate
about dating and women, in general. Oh no, you’re not a drama queen you
rationalize, not like those annoying girls you went to high school, college, or
even currently work with. I guess that depends on what you think a drama queen
is. Men rate the drama on five factors.
Are
you late for everything? The lack of promptness factor on the psychological
level is an extreme demand for attention. You’re never ready when he comes to
pick you up or you fail to meet him at the appointed time. I am not talking
about being five or ten minutes late now and then, or even calling to say
you’re running late. The woman who's consistently late causing the man to cool
his heels, and often miss out on reservations, opening credits of a movie, or
being seated in the balcony during a live performance due to being tardy. This
constant lateness is a sign of a diva who wants to makes an entrance.
Newsflash: no one cares if you make a late entrance. Your date does, but not
for long since he’ll be dropping you soon.
Overreaction
is the second aspect to being a drama queen that drive men crazy, and not in a
good way. This can range from complaining about the weather to the movie
starting without you. Most of these things cannot be changed by acting put out
and pouting like Daddy’s spoiled little girl. Remember your date is not Daddy;
even Daddy gets tired of his little princess’s tantrums. I’ve seen women go
into a major meltdown in public over a broken nail. This does not impress your
date. A man likes a woman who can roll with the punches.
The
third factor involves your man. If any of you remembered seeing TEN WAYS TO
LOSE A GUY, the heroine is cozied up to her date watching a movie and she
immediately questions what he’s thinking about. He replied that he’s watching
the movie; therefore, he’s thinking about nothing. She then goes on to tell him
that he’s thinking about his old girlfriend to his surprise. Of course, we know
she’s doing this type of behavior to try to lose the guy. The behavior of the
woman interpreting what the man is thinking (she reacts to his perceived
thoughts or actions) is common.
This
behavior coupled with the hot and cold attitude is a relationship killer too.
That’s when a woman is crazy about a guy one day, but the next she refuses his
phone calls. I realize some dating manuals advise this type of behavior to make
a man think you’re a sought after commodity. In truth, they tend to think of
you as a drama queen and not really worth the trouble.
Being
mean to others is not appealing in either men or women, but the drama queen
loves to employ this technique to get more attention. She’s always onstage
performing, even if it is only for herself. One episode of Hell Date featured
mean girl extraordinaire. She insulted everyone from the doorman to the coat
check girl. She also sent her expensive meal back several times, even demanding
to see the chef to complain. Her date was mortified and apologized profusely to
everyone she insulted. When the little person appeared dressed as a devil, her
date was obviously relieved. The sad thing was even though his date’s behavior
was just an act, for most drama queens being mean to the help is the real deal.
Drama
queens invent drama. They retell stories to make themselves the victim. They
aren’t above inventing tales to tantalize their dates, even using illnesses,
real or otherwise for attention. This is such a mistake because men dislike
dealing with sickness of any kind. Eventually the date figures out he’s been
sold a bill of goods and wonders if anything she says is true. The woman spends
so much time making herself sound interesting that she has little time to spend
on her date. I bet you’ve gone out with men like that before. It wasn’t a very
pleasant experience, was it?
So
think about it for a moment. Men crave calm, not drama. A survey solicited this
information from men of different backgrounds and age groups. The most notable
constant among all of them was that they were single; which means you might go
out with one of them. Yes, they are judging you if you’re on time, if you over
react to little things, put words in their mouths, go all hot and cold, and if
you’re mean to the help. You are judging them too. It helps to know some of the
things that are on the drama queen checklist to decide if you might be guilty
of one or two.
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