Thursday, February 14, 2013

Dangers of Dating Daddy's Girl

A juvenile complaint was filed, accusing the girl of simple battery and damage to property (file pic)

Are you a Daddy’s Girl? You knew you could always go to your father to solve all your problems. He believed no one was good enough for his little princess. He probably did his best to put the fear of God, plus Smith and Wesson into your dates. As you grew older, and moved away, you knew you could always return for a self-esteem boost, a loan, and your oil changed. What’s wrong with being Daddy’s Girl? Isn’t it great to be loved so much, put up on a pedestal, and given anything your little heart desires?

You do have to realize no man will ever measure up to your father. Generations change and the skills we now value may not be the same skill set your father possesses. Many women are disappointed that their husband or boyfriend can’t build a deck, do simple plumbing work, or even install a ceiling fan. Their most common response is I’ll Call Dad He Can Fix It. Talk about a romance wrecker.

If a man and woman want a balanced relationship, they can’t have dear old dad in it.  A man deals with his wife, or girlfriend differently than a father might, especially an indulgent father. Many a doting father will justify doing without to give his adoring daughter whatever she wants. You see how this sets up the man in her life to be a regular dragon.

Daddy will justify his daughter’s actions no matter how outrageous or just wrong they are.  Everything from overspending to cheating will be attributed as the man’s fault. Daddy’s Princess does not expect to take care of herself, earn her way, or even take responsibility for the drama she might cause by her behavior.  Her father has allowed her to have her way because he could never stand the thought she might pull her love away.

Her love is conditional. Of course, she loves her father who is a combination of God, Santa Claus, and a Sugar Daddy. Since he started this from the beginning, it was hard for him to draw the line without resulting in a screaming hissy fit. This has become her ultimate tool, crying, pouting, complaining you’re mean, or even threatening to hurt herself. She won’t. She likes herself way too much. Daddy is a non-confrontational type unwilling to stand up to tears.

Can you guess what she is looking for in a man? Someone who is just like Daddy; one who will spoil her rotten and buckle under her threats.  These women usually prefer men older than them because it feels more familiar. These men are so grateful for a young girlfriend they are willing to liberally sprinkle them with jewels and extravagant gifts.

If you haven’t guessed it yet, Daddy has created a raging need for absolute adoration and attention. Consider this: she managed to cut out her siblings and mom out of Daddy’s attention circle.  With this in mind, she needs to be the center of everything. She has friends, but when they take attention off her, they’re gone.  She may often be rude to servers because it is all about her. She is anxious to put everyone beneath her heel.

Somewhere she’s heard about people having feelings. She may have halfway believed it. In the end, it is only her feelings that matter. When you first meet, you may be dazzled by her perfect smile, blemish free skin, and spray-on tan. Daddy paid for every one of those things.

She only has one agenda: that is to get what she wants. She’ll throw anybody to the wolves who gets in her way. All women are considered her competition, which is why she even has catty things to say about the sweet, old librarian. This bitchy attitude only reaffirms in her mind that she is superior to everyone. She’ll date (because unbelievably) men seem to like this behavior. Some men are afraid to stop dating her since she has already shown an appetite for destruction and scenes.

If a man does fall in love with a Daddy’s Girl, be forewarned she will be the ultimate bridezilla.  Forget horse driven carriages, she’ll want popular groups to perform at her reception. She might even insist on angels suspended over the guests, sprinkling angel dust or a life-sized wedding cake of herself. Any time the groom has the nerve to oppose her, Daddy will be brought in to overrule him.

Think long and hard before dating Daddy’s Little Princess. Know no one ever measures up. If she is denied something from a new car to designer clothes, she’ll go directly to her father who will either buy it or condemn her guy for not doing so.

Why is being Daddy’s Girl so damaging to a relationship? Men want a woman’s favor, trust, and adoration. They want to be the hero in the woman’s life, but they can’t if her father takes that role. A woman who constantly throws up how her father could accomplish simple tasks that her man can’t is disloyal and mean. It certainly doesn’t improve in-law relations either.

There are some women who overcome this, but most don’t. Why should they? It gets them what they want.

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